Hey, girl, hey! Welcome, mama. I’m Dara, and I’m so glad you’re here! You’re probably wondering who I am and what this conscious parenting
Spankings, time-outs, blaming, shaming, and bullying. They’re all “normal” practices in traditional parenting, but what if I told you there was another way?
89% of black parents use physical punishment to discipline their children. Heck, I even fell into the trap of doing the same old thing. I get it. It’s not easy dealing with toddlers who won’t listen, teens who want all of the freedom with none of the responsibility, and balancing motherhood with the unrealistic demands of everyday life. For most of us, it’s all we know.
Like many of you, I grew up with traditional parenting prioritizing control over connection. Obedience over collaboration. Convenience over feelings. Sure, I ended up obedient with a bunch of accomplishments, but mentally and emotionally, I was broken.
I made a declaration that the broken children stop with me. I’m committed to continually educating myself with the tools, and I’m ready to share those tools with you.
I’m the founder of Radical Black Mom Coaching. My mission is to help parents raise a generation of Black children who don’t need to heal from childhood trauma. I believe our children deserve to be happy, healthy, and whole.
I want to create a space for black moms to unlearn and replace harmful parenting practices while still raising respectful, kind, intelligent children.
I started my own journey after having my daughter, Kennedy. For the first two years of her life, I used those same old tools you’re using today. So, I’ve been where you are.
Using those tools, I felt defeated, grieved, convicted, and out of control. Any act of defiance or perceived notion of disrespect triggered my childhood wounds, and I would lash out at my child harshly. I thought punishment (rather than discipline) was a necessary part of learning.
Which is why I’m committed to generational healing through conscious parenting.
You’re here because you’re frustrated, tired, and feeling hopeless. You’ve exhausted your old tools and still feel like you’re not making any progress. At the end of the day, you feel defeated. You desire more peace and less stress in your life. When I first started the journey, to be honest, I wasn’t sure it would work. Everything I knew from my upbringing said it wouldn’t. But after taking the time to commit and dedicate myself to the journey, I started seeing the fruit within my child through increased joy, cooperation, patience, emotional stability, and kindness toward others.
I also noticed that within this space, there aren’t a lot of people that look like you and me.
But no worries, that’s why I’m here!
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